i don't know what it is with me but i've always had a relatively easy time forgiving. my mind set is this: if you're ever in a bad situation but you're still not cursing and your whole world isn't yet falling apart, things are still good. move on. prove you're the better woman (or man) or come to think of it, you don't even have to prove that you're better, you simply have to be good regardless of whether or not its reciprocal. simple as that. i guess it's sometimes easier said than done. after all, we're only human and you cannot blame us for hurt feelings harbored after something bad happens or someone does something bad to us. i apologize for being malabo. allow me to elucidate further...

imagine this situation: A and B are good friends. B does something mean to A. A, understandably, gets hurt and harbors ill feelings towards B. at the end of the day, no matter how mean and bad and vile B is (or rather what B did as i don't believe there are bad people, just people who do not so nice things), the net loser is A. why? because while B probably moved on (unless B has a really guilty conscience which apparently isn't the case with most people), A is still clinging on to what happened with B. A becomes bitter. A may even become mean. tis sad. unfair, even because A didn't do anything wrong then suddenly has to shoulder the heavy burden of being angry at someone.

but hey, that's life. and human nature, even. but i figure, if you didn't do anything wrong or you were the wronged party, why burden yourself? just because people are mean to you doesn't mean you have to be mean back. similarly, if strongly believe you're doing the right thing but it just so happens that everyone around you isn't, there's no reason for you to stop and automatically distrust everyone and assume all they do they do in bad faith. do the right thing anyway. because at the end of the day, people are who they are. if they do bad things, then they'll have to live with themselves and the consequences of their actions.

back to the same premise: A and B are good friends. B does something bad to A. this time, A forgives B, moves on, lives a happy life. B, on the other hand is still a jerk wherever he (or she...para equal protection...go consti!) goes unless B reforms. people will recognize that. sorry nalang siya.

when life throws you lemons, make lemonade. it IS a constant struggle to always look at (and for) the bright side of life and overcome difficult situations, but it is rewarding. and much more relaxing. and better for your skin. hehehe! :) PLUS there is the added bonus of knowing you're doing what you think is the right thing to do. talk about win-win situation. :)

why did i post this? hehehe, that's for me to know. in any case, i think this applies to a myriad of situations. politics. friendships. life in general. :)

first year law student.kid at heart.idealist.optimist (except about myself).hopeless romantic.daydream believer.dreamer.klutz(hehe).


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